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Hitting Rock Bottom – why It Can Be The Best Thing To Ever Happen To You

For most of us, we try our uppermost to avoid hitting rock bottom at all costs. The trouble is, we have little or no idea what rock bottom actually is until we hit it. We know what we don’t want and we work hard at not getting what we don’t want, but we don’t actually know what getting those ‘don’t wants’ really feels like – until we get them.

Hitting rock bottom generally feels like there is no other option, no light at the end of the tunnel, hopelessness and despair. It is a horrible place to be.

Yet, while rock bottom is avoided at all costs, it can be one of the best things you can ever experience!

That sounds bizarre doesn’t it? Let me explain.

Take any area of life; relationships, work, family, health, it doesn’t matter. For now, we’ll take career. We know what we don’t want in our career, but not just what we don’t want – what we really don’t want; our worst case scenario. Maybe that is losing your job, or not making your commission so that you can pay your bills. Whatever it is, we have a fair idea of what that would feel like in our minds which is why we work so hard at avoiding it.

That’s all well and good all the time you are achieving avoiding your worst case scenario.

If you do hit rock bottom, either through no fault of your own or through your own doing, a process will start. This process a tumult. It will feel like you have gone through an emotional wringer, but it can be the best thing that ever happened to you.

Firstly, you may experience utter disappointment. Total disbelief that it actually came true. This can take the form of many emotions or feelings; emptiness, hurt or even just a numbness inside of you. At this point, you may be saying something to yourself like “I can’t believe they did this to me” or “What’s the matter with me? Why aren’t I good enough?” Most of the statements you will make will be pointing the finger of blame at other people for your downfall.

Then you may feel depressed, if you stay in stage 1 for long enough. This will be the “What’s the point?” “Well, that’s it then. I may just as well roll over and die.” statements that you make. This stage will only last as long as you keep saying those kinds of statements!

Stage 3 starts to get interesting because it is the stage of frustration and anger. “Damn them for doing this to me!” “Why have I been so stupid?” Although frustration and anger are generally considered to be negative emotions, when someone has been ‘stuck’ in depression or shock, these are great emotions for getting someone moving. When people are frustrated or angry, they may pace around the room, go for long walks or go to seek solace in someone they know. Where ever they go, they are moving, and that is a great leap forward from sitting within four walls. The other good thing about this stage is that you finally start to take some ownership of the issue. This is generally the first point in which the sufferer starts to include themselves as part of the problem that made this happen (in most cases).

Stage 4 is Taking ownership. Taking ownership for what has happened is the breakthrough that will get you moving back up towards achieving your goals again. This occurs because we have gone through all of the other stages of blaming everybody else, the world and the universe for our downfalls, and now we know that we can only rely on ourselves to get us to where we want to be, so we now look within ourselves to find out exactly what it is that is important to us and exactly how we are now going to get it. This time, we are very focused and very driven on getting ourselves back to where we really want to be. This is the key factor that was missing before we hit rock bottom and ultimately played a part in our downfall.

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